Plenty of Room at Top: It’s Crowded in the ‘Cesspool of Mediocrity’

Many people are under the mistaken impression that the “rat race” means that it’s crowded at the top of the success ladder. Wrong. Where you’ll find crowds are at the bottom, where hordes of people with average ambitions, abilities and attitudes fight it out for survival in a cesspool of mediocrity.

Normally, this crowd is addicted to pleasure, engaging in trivial pursuits but never getting serious about what they want or the price they’ll need to pay to get it. They spend years and sometimes decades looking for shortcuts to success: the prize without the price as they bumble and drift aimlessly waiting for life to finally step up and make them happy. The numbers of average dealerships filled with folks fitting this description, the leaders included, are embarrassingly high!

The good news is that there is plenty of room at the top because so few people are willing to do what’s necessary to get there. In fact, the following 11 traits are inherent in the masses living mediocre lives, seduced and immobilized by an enemy called average. Consider this as an 11-point portrait of industry loafers, laggards and losers:

1. At work, they do just enough to get by, just enough to get paid and just enough not to get fired.

2. They don’t take responsibility for their failures. They blame their workplace, boss, parents, teachers, ethnic background, where they grew up, the government and their overall bad luck.

3. They assume a victim’s mentality and assert that other guys are successful because they’ve gotten the “breaks.” Unfortunately, rather than work hard, they are content to put in minimal effort and wait for their own break to show up. They spend more on lottery tickets than on books that could change their life.

4. They are serial quitters. While these folks start many things: new jobs, hobbies, diets and the like, they bail out when it gets tough.

5. The only habits they develop are bad or unproductive ones!

6. They procrastinate and live in the state of “as soon as.” “As soon as this happens, then I’ll do this or that.”

7. They talk big and have grand plans but rarely follow through.

8. They aren’t normally happy for the success of others. They’d rather bring you down than stretch up to your level.

9. They play life too safe and rarely take a mature risk. It’s easier for them to settle for average than to strive for achievement.

10. They aren’t grateful for what they have because they never think they get what they deserve.

11. They nullify their talent by making poor character choices, normally resulting from the desire to get what they want quickly.

By making a choice to reverse the 11 traits that characterize life’s just-get-by crowd, do the following:

1. Go the second mile. Do what is required and then some. Do it when no one else is looking.

2. Accept responsibility for your life. Renounce excuses and learn from mistakes.

3. Understand that life is not about lucky breaks, it’s about cause and effect. You’ve got to sow before you reap.

4. Develop a bigger “why” and purpose that helps pull you through the pain and discomfort of persisting so that you can achieve your goals.

5. Believe that right decisions done repeatedly compound success. Do what is right even when it’s not easy, cheap, popular or convenient and you’ll develop the discipline necessary to produce healthy habits.

6. Realize that there is never a perfect time to do something. During the course of your life you can bet that there is far more power in doing something now than later.

7. Only share your dreams with those closest to you and then run hard to reach them. Let your walk speak louder than your talk.

8. Have an abundance mentality that allows you to cheer for others because you believe there is plenty to go around for those who are willing to pay the price. Because someone else gains, doesn’t mean there’s less for you.

9. Take a shot. And if you miss, learn from it and take another one. As the Great Gretzky said, “You’ll miss 100 percent of the shots that you don’t take.”

10. Live with an attitude of gratitude because the more you’re grateful for, the more you’ll eventually have to be grateful for!

11. Make sure that your character protects your talent. Don’t sell out your integrity for short-term gain because you’ll always be found out in the long run.

Follow these steps to reach the top in your field and your marketplace. But since it might be lonely once you pull away from the pack, I suggest that you bring someone along with you on the journey!

Source- Dealer Business Journal





As I embark on this second week in January, I reflect, without regret, because 2012 was a blessing. 2012..A year of sowing and reaping. 2012..A year of faith exercised. 2012..A year of shifting my circle. 2012..A year of changing my atmosphere. 2012..A year of favor.

In retrospect it feels as though the year flew. Focused, not only did I achieve my goals, I exceeded my goals above my immediate imagination through God. Best year in a long time.

2013. Wow!!!! Thoughts of being 11yrs old thinking in 15 years I will be 26. Thankful as I am, I made it! Like the first quarter of 2012, I have already hit the ground running to reach all of my goals. Like every other year I’ve prepared short-term goals and will remain focused on my long-term goals.  If you ever get to a point where your satisfied, wondering what’s next? A wise friend once told me to never become complacent. With 2013 here, new goals are in place. Uncertain of what 2013 holds, I remain optimistic and focused. Lets Go! Happy NEW Year!

P.S. I plan to revisit you soon..#BlogMore

♥ Ms. Krys

Year 25 ~ Top 25 Lessons Learned

Year 25 Top 25 Lessons Learned

1.Never judge people on face value.
2. Show love to others no matter what.
3. Life is short, live each day as your last.
4. Words are powerful so be slow to speak.
5. Keep God first and live your life to please him.
6. Dreams can become realities if you work hard.
7. Forgiveness is the key to getting past being hurt.
8. Use common sense in relationships, don’t be naive.
9. Don’t hold on to people who are not worth your time.
10. Health is a blessing, thank God for everyday you have.
11. Truly loving someone is more than words and actions.
12. Hard work does not always pay off, working hard does.
13. The loudest one in the room is usually the weakest one.
14. Don’t compare your life to others; we are all on our own journeys.
15. Start your day positive, end your day positive. Flee from negativity.
16. Never settle for less than what you desire. Hold on to your standards.
17. You can’t help everyone. Some people are going to be out of your reach.
18. The feeling you feel when giving or impacting someone else’s life is priceless.
19. Just because you’ve known someone for a long time doesn’t make them a good friend.
20. Don’t worry about what people say about you. They didn’t make you so they sure can’t break you.
21. You’re as beautiful as you want to be. No one is in control of your beauty and confidence other than you.
22. People come in and out your life for a reason, try to figure out what their purpose was once they are gone.
23. Save! Save! Save! You have a future. Not having to live paycheck-to-paycheck is like a breath of fresh air, try it.
24. God will never put more on you than you can bear, so whatever you go through in life, you will make it through.
25. If something is meant to be it will be, never force things to be that are not naturally.

 25 years, Regret Free!!

Bereolaesque:The Contemporary Gentleman & Etiquette Book for the Urban Sophisticate

Bereolaesque is a contemporary gentleman and etiquette book written by Enitan Bereola II. BEREOLAESQUE [Be-re-o-la-esk] -adjective: Highly appealing and pleasing to the human senses and mind; captivating; provides pleasure or delight, especially in appearance or manner; charming; alluring; attractive.

Bereolaesque is for every man and every woman who believe that chivalry is NOT dead, and individuals who are willing to learn exactly how far something as simple as being a gentleman and proper etiquette can get you in life. Not to mention, ladies are always quite pleased to meet a real gentleman.

Reality of the situation is that some men just don’t know how to act and are completely clueless on how a gentleman should carry oneself. This is a  great read if you are willing to learn how to be a gentleman and improve your sense of style to your sense of chivalry.

About The Author
Rurally raised, yet metropolitan minded. A casual author and somewhat of a perfectionist in all realms. Learning lessons but staying honest. Because he is shameless, he is an open book and because he is sharp, he is self-restrained. Full of emotion, but always rational. Humble, but quite often ostentatious. He comes off as a walking, talking dichotomy which makes him absolutely human, just like you. Bereola is renowned by gentlemen current and past alike. He has spent the vast majority of his life traveling and researching etiquette and applying it in society.

Quotes From The Author

You can check his website out @ or follow him via twitter @bereolaesque


Ten Rules For Being Human

1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.
2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, “life.”
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately “work.”
4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
5. Learning lessons does not end. There’s no part of life that doesn’t contain its lessons. If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.
6. “There” is no better a place than “here.” When your “there” has become a “here”, you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”
7. Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
9. Your answers lie within you. The answers to life’s questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.
10. You will forget all this.

Source- My Success Company– By Cherie Carter-Scott

Simon Sinek: If You Don’t Understand People, You Don’t Understand Business

About This Presentation
In this wide-ranging talk, ethnographer and leadership expert Simon Sinek discusses the importance of trust, authenticity, and meaning. Sinek argues that as individuals and companies, everything that we say and do is a symbol of who we are. And it is only when we communicate our beliefs authentically that we can attract others to our cause, and form the bonds that will empower us to achieve truly great things.

About Simon Sinek
A trained ethnographer and the author of Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action, Simon Sinek has held a life-long curiosity for why people and organizations do the things they do. Studying the leaders and companies that make the greatest impact in the world and achieve a more lasting success than others, he discovered the formula that explains how they do it. Sinek’s amazingly simple idea, The Golden Circle, is grounded in the biology of human decision-making and is changing how leaders and companies think and act.

His innovative views on business and leadership have earned him invitations to meet with an array of leaders and organizations, including Microsoft, Dell, SAP, Intel, Chanel, Members of the United States Congress, and the Ambassadors of Bahrain and Iraq.

Sinek recently became an adjunct staff member of the RAND Corporation, one of the most highly regarded think tanks in the world.  He also works with the non-profit Education for Employment Foundation to help create opportunities for young men and women in the Middle East region. He lives in New York, where he teaches graduate level strategic communications at Columbia University.

Source The99Percent