Plenty of Room at Top: It’s Crowded in the ‘Cesspool of Mediocrity’

Many people are under the mistaken impression that the “rat race” means that it’s crowded at the top of the success ladder. Wrong. Where you’ll find crowds are at the bottom, where hordes of people with average ambitions, abilities and attitudes fight it out for survival in a cesspool of mediocrity.

Normally, this crowd is addicted to pleasure, engaging in trivial pursuits but never getting serious about what they want or the price they’ll need to pay to get it. They spend years and sometimes decades looking for shortcuts to success: the prize without the price as they bumble and drift aimlessly waiting for life to finally step up and make them happy. The numbers of average dealerships filled with folks fitting this description, the leaders included, are embarrassingly high!

The good news is that there is plenty of room at the top because so few people are willing to do what’s necessary to get there. In fact, the following 11 traits are inherent in the masses living mediocre lives, seduced and immobilized by an enemy called average. Consider this as an 11-point portrait of industry loafers, laggards and losers:

1. At work, they do just enough to get by, just enough to get paid and just enough not to get fired.

2. They don’t take responsibility for their failures. They blame their workplace, boss, parents, teachers, ethnic background, where they grew up, the government and their overall bad luck.

3. They assume a victim’s mentality and assert that other guys are successful because they’ve gotten the “breaks.” Unfortunately, rather than work hard, they are content to put in minimal effort and wait for their own break to show up. They spend more on lottery tickets than on books that could change their life.

4. They are serial quitters. While these folks start many things: new jobs, hobbies, diets and the like, they bail out when it gets tough.

5. The only habits they develop are bad or unproductive ones!

6. They procrastinate and live in the state of “as soon as.” “As soon as this happens, then I’ll do this or that.”

7. They talk big and have grand plans but rarely follow through.

8. They aren’t normally happy for the success of others. They’d rather bring you down than stretch up to your level.

9. They play life too safe and rarely take a mature risk. It’s easier for them to settle for average than to strive for achievement.

10. They aren’t grateful for what they have because they never think they get what they deserve.

11. They nullify their talent by making poor character choices, normally resulting from the desire to get what they want quickly.

By making a choice to reverse the 11 traits that characterize life’s just-get-by crowd, do the following:

1. Go the second mile. Do what is required and then some. Do it when no one else is looking.

2. Accept responsibility for your life. Renounce excuses and learn from mistakes.

3. Understand that life is not about lucky breaks, it’s about cause and effect. You’ve got to sow before you reap.

4. Develop a bigger “why” and purpose that helps pull you through the pain and discomfort of persisting so that you can achieve your goals.

5. Believe that right decisions done repeatedly compound success. Do what is right even when it’s not easy, cheap, popular or convenient and you’ll develop the discipline necessary to produce healthy habits.

6. Realize that there is never a perfect time to do something. During the course of your life you can bet that there is far more power in doing something now than later.

7. Only share your dreams with those closest to you and then run hard to reach them. Let your walk speak louder than your talk.

8. Have an abundance mentality that allows you to cheer for others because you believe there is plenty to go around for those who are willing to pay the price. Because someone else gains, doesn’t mean there’s less for you.

9. Take a shot. And if you miss, learn from it and take another one. As the Great Gretzky said, “You’ll miss 100 percent of the shots that you don’t take.”

10. Live with an attitude of gratitude because the more you’re grateful for, the more you’ll eventually have to be grateful for!

11. Make sure that your character protects your talent. Don’t sell out your integrity for short-term gain because you’ll always be found out in the long run.

Follow these steps to reach the top in your field and your marketplace. But since it might be lonely once you pull away from the pack, I suggest that you bring someone along with you on the journey!

Source- Dealer Business Journal



DIY: Black Toe Pump

Okay Ladies, have you been looking for a way to turn those old boring shoes into a fab creation? Well here it is! Do It Yourself!

-Nude pumps
-Acrylic paint

  1.  Tape off the toe end that you want black.
  2. Paint the tip.
  3. Once dried, carefully peel off the tape.
  4. Enjoy your creation!

Source: Made In Pretoria


Ask Jackson – What I Fear

Dear Jackson,

Over the past few years I had two relationships. Both were long and we were both great friends. They had their ups and downs like any other relationship and ultimately ended. In both I gave myself completely and was entirely wrapped up emotionally. I think it is a good thing to give your all to something. One thing I fear is that in giving your all like that, when it’s over there are just memories. You feel like you spent yourself. I just wonder if I’d ever connect with someone to that point again where I am willing to do whatever, whenever, and fight for us. I don’t want to go backwards but I do miss my recent ex, not the relationship, but our friendship. I’ve known her since 2000 and we know the most about each other. She was my best friend. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not tearing me up inside but I do feel it. Looking back you always feel like you could have did this, or that, or maybe this wasn’t as big a deal as it was but, I believe that’s just a trick of the mind. I keep reminding myself that where I am now is far beyond where I was yesterday.

What I Fear

Dear What I Fear,

You would never have experienced the feeling of love and wanting to truly care for someone to the point that you would do anything for them if you didn’t allow yourself to be vulnerable and take a risk. Love is a beautiful thing and if you ever want to experience it again unfortunately your going to have to take a risk with your heart and emotions.

However you may have ended your relationships is probably why you second guess and keep wondering the what ifs. But reality is, you can what if about a lot of things. Your past will always be full of memories, good ones and bad ones. Your future is waiting to create new memories. It is always hard to let go of someone you truly loved especially a best friend, but remember, best friends are not always the best mate. Write out a list of all the qualities your heart desires in a mate. And without making excuses for these woman from your past, do they fit the list or even 90% of it.

Getting over someone you love is a process and it wont happen over night. What you feel is only natural.  You miss the relationship and the friendship you shared, the connection with your ex’s, what it represented, but I’m sure it’s not your ex’s itself that you miss.



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Cute Hair For Any Occasion!!!

Thing You Will Need
-Elastic hair band
-Hair pins
-Hair decoration

1. Comb your hair through.
2. Take some hair from the top of your head and put in an elastic hair band.
3. Make your hair into a bun and pin loose ends with hair clips.

4. Separate the rest of your hair in half.

5. Put the right half to the left and then wrap it around the bun, and fix it in place with hair pins.
6. Do the same thing with the left half. Add a hair decoration.

shka biliy

Style Post ~ J.Crew Silk Blouse

There are so many reasons why I love silk blouses by J.Crew. This was a great find over the holidays.

This blouse would make for an amazing addition to any woman’s wardrobe because of its versatility and is perfect for spring 2012.

 J.Crew Spread

Year 25 ~ Top 25 Lessons Learned

Year 25 Top 25 Lessons Learned

1.Never judge people on face value.
2. Show love to others no matter what.
3. Life is short, live each day as your last.
4. Words are powerful so be slow to speak.
5. Keep God first and live your life to please him.
6. Dreams can become realities if you work hard.
7. Forgiveness is the key to getting past being hurt.
8. Use common sense in relationships, don’t be naive.
9. Don’t hold on to people who are not worth your time.
10. Health is a blessing, thank God for everyday you have.
11. Truly loving someone is more than words and actions.
12. Hard work does not always pay off, working hard does.
13. The loudest one in the room is usually the weakest one.
14. Don’t compare your life to others; we are all on our own journeys.
15. Start your day positive, end your day positive. Flee from negativity.
16. Never settle for less than what you desire. Hold on to your standards.
17. You can’t help everyone. Some people are going to be out of your reach.
18. The feeling you feel when giving or impacting someone else’s life is priceless.
19. Just because you’ve known someone for a long time doesn’t make them a good friend.
20. Don’t worry about what people say about you. They didn’t make you so they sure can’t break you.
21. You’re as beautiful as you want to be. No one is in control of your beauty and confidence other than you.
22. People come in and out your life for a reason, try to figure out what their purpose was once they are gone.
23. Save! Save! Save! You have a future. Not having to live paycheck-to-paycheck is like a breath of fresh air, try it.
24. God will never put more on you than you can bear, so whatever you go through in life, you will make it through.
25. If something is meant to be it will be, never force things to be that are not naturally.

 25 years, Regret Free!!

Ask Jackson – Why Can’t I Let Go

Dear Jackson,

In a nut shell, been with guy for 10yrs, gone through 3 cheats that I know of. The most recent one I ended up sharing him, stupid I know, and still I can’t find myself to let go and I do not know why. He says he can’t let me go and doesn’t want to see me with anyone else, selfish is what he is, I know. My mind tells me this isn’t right and that I need to get out of this, but my heart is weak, I love him but I know I do not deserve this. One foot is leading toward moving on, the other is still hanging in there.

Why Can’t I Let Go

Dear Why Can’t I Let Go,

The title of this “Why Can’t I Let Go” is telling me that you want to get out of this relationship. After being with someone for 10 years you can become very comfortable. When you picture your ideal relationship you don’t want someone who is going to cheat on you or expect you to share him with another woman. There is no commitment if a man will allow you to share him with another woman. You said “he can’t let go and doesn’t want to see you with anyone else” but yet he has seen himself with other women every time he cheated. The more you allow him to do the more he will do. Trust your intuition. How long have you been telling yourself things will get better and they haven’t. Days? Months? Years? You deserve a real man, one that is going to truly love and respect you. After 10 years of putting up with a man like this you clearly have a big heart and deserve to be loved and respected. Follow your heart and what is common sense, you cannot create something that is not there. Don’t cheat yourself. Realize and accept the truth of your relationship, where it’s going, and let go.

Best Wishes,

P.S. There is an article I wrote a while back on Trusting Your Intuition check it out it may also help you with your decision.

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