Plenty of Room at Top: It’s Crowded in the ‘Cesspool of Mediocrity’

Many people are under the mistaken impression that the “rat race” means that it’s crowded at the top of the success ladder. Wrong. Where you’ll find crowds are at the bottom, where hordes of people with average ambitions, abilities and attitudes fight it out for survival in a cesspool of mediocrity.

Normally, this crowd is addicted to pleasure, engaging in trivial pursuits but never getting serious about what they want or the price they’ll need to pay to get it. They spend years and sometimes decades looking for shortcuts to success: the prize without the price as they bumble and drift aimlessly waiting for life to finally step up and make them happy. The numbers of average dealerships filled with folks fitting this description, the leaders included, are embarrassingly high!

The good news is that there is plenty of room at the top because so few people are willing to do what’s necessary to get there. In fact, the following 11 traits are inherent in the masses living mediocre lives, seduced and immobilized by an enemy called average. Consider this as an 11-point portrait of industry loafers, laggards and losers:

1. At work, they do just enough to get by, just enough to get paid and just enough not to get fired.

2. They don’t take responsibility for their failures. They blame their workplace, boss, parents, teachers, ethnic background, where they grew up, the government and their overall bad luck.

3. They assume a victim’s mentality and assert that other guys are successful because they’ve gotten the “breaks.” Unfortunately, rather than work hard, they are content to put in minimal effort and wait for their own break to show up. They spend more on lottery tickets than on books that could change their life.

4. They are serial quitters. While these folks start many things: new jobs, hobbies, diets and the like, they bail out when it gets tough.

5. The only habits they develop are bad or unproductive ones!

6. They procrastinate and live in the state of “as soon as.” “As soon as this happens, then I’ll do this or that.”

7. They talk big and have grand plans but rarely follow through.

8. They aren’t normally happy for the success of others. They’d rather bring you down than stretch up to your level.

9. They play life too safe and rarely take a mature risk. It’s easier for them to settle for average than to strive for achievement.

10. They aren’t grateful for what they have because they never think they get what they deserve.

11. They nullify their talent by making poor character choices, normally resulting from the desire to get what they want quickly.

By making a choice to reverse the 11 traits that characterize life’s just-get-by crowd, do the following:

1. Go the second mile. Do what is required and then some. Do it when no one else is looking.

2. Accept responsibility for your life. Renounce excuses and learn from mistakes.

3. Understand that life is not about lucky breaks, it’s about cause and effect. You’ve got to sow before you reap.

4. Develop a bigger “why” and purpose that helps pull you through the pain and discomfort of persisting so that you can achieve your goals.

5. Believe that right decisions done repeatedly compound success. Do what is right even when it’s not easy, cheap, popular or convenient and you’ll develop the discipline necessary to produce healthy habits.

6. Realize that there is never a perfect time to do something. During the course of your life you can bet that there is far more power in doing something now than later.

7. Only share your dreams with those closest to you and then run hard to reach them. Let your walk speak louder than your talk.

8. Have an abundance mentality that allows you to cheer for others because you believe there is plenty to go around for those who are willing to pay the price. Because someone else gains, doesn’t mean there’s less for you.

9. Take a shot. And if you miss, learn from it and take another one. As the Great Gretzky said, “You’ll miss 100 percent of the shots that you don’t take.”

10. Live with an attitude of gratitude because the more you’re grateful for, the more you’ll eventually have to be grateful for!

11. Make sure that your character protects your talent. Don’t sell out your integrity for short-term gain because you’ll always be found out in the long run.

Follow these steps to reach the top in your field and your marketplace. But since it might be lonely once you pull away from the pack, I suggest that you bring someone along with you on the journey!

Source- Dealer Business Journal



Ten Rules For Being Human

1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.
2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, “life.”
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately “work.”
4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
5. Learning lessons does not end. There’s no part of life that doesn’t contain its lessons. If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.
6. “There” is no better a place than “here.” When your “there” has become a “here”, you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”
7. Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
9. Your answers lie within you. The answers to life’s questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.
10. You will forget all this.

Source- My Success Company– By Cherie Carter-Scott

Ask Jackson- Facebook Is Ruining My Relationship

 Dear Jackson,

It will be a year that I have been with my boyfriend in November. I see women post on his page things like “when are we gonna get together” and “call me” when they know we are in a relationship. We have pics together on both of our pages. When I ask him about who these women are he just says they are nobody, but part of me doesn’t believe that. Besides all of this, he added one of his ex’s who I know he had deep feelings for and they were just talking out in the open, then a few days later she was no longer on his friends list. I just feel like I’m being played. When I ask him about these women and situations, he automatically gets defensive and doesn’t want to talk about it and it makes me feel bad for even bringing it up. Am I wrong for feeling this way?


Facebook Is Ruining My Relationship

Dear Fb Is Ruining My Relationship,

You have every right to feel the way you do. Wondering why these women are present in his life seems to be causing a mistrust and even some insecurities in your relationship. Communication is always key. Try having a serious talk about what is going on and how you feel. Facebook will be Facebook. It’s a social site for people to meet other people and network, so chances are there will be more women and men trying to talk to the both of you. Your relationship should not revolve around a social site. If your man is not willing to talk things through and be honest with you then your assumptions are probably correct. A man who truly cares about you will do what it takes to keep you.


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